Pillow-Talk Sex Scandals & Your Office Romance: Not As Different
In Screwing Up Your Promotion & Pay Raise Chances (1/2)

Office Romance Problems Effects & Etiquette (DOs & DON’Ts)

Pillow-Talk Sex Scandals & Your Office Romance:
Not As Different
In Screwing Up Your Promotion & Pay Raise Chances

If you’re having an office romance, this is your wake-up call, for salvaging your chances for a promotion and a pay raise, which an office romance always screws up!

To do that, we’re on this Sex and the Workplace Deck, covering all the angles of the 7 BossProblems that make you un-promotable, and un-pay-raise-able, while having an office romance with your coworker or colleague, and more often than not: even after such a romance has ended – the downsides of which will linger for a long time!

Fully understanding all the 7 BossProblems, will help you in 3 ways:

1. It will enable you to be very realistic, about what’s at stake for you personally, and for your Schmoopie, in terms of your chances for a promotion and a pay raise.

2. You will better understand your other co-workers (the ones you’re not involved with…), and your Superiors, who do not see kindly to your lovey-dovey office romance, and for good reasons, as we’ve seen before:

1. You Are Not Focused On The Job
2. You Become a Distraction for others
3. You become an imbalance, an counter-equalizer on the team

[watch parts 1 & 2 here if you’ve missed them].

So, how do you even dare expect your co-workers and Superiors to be cool with your office romance? Of course they start resenting you more and more, and of course this will be detrimental to your chances of landing that promotion and pay raise you so want!

And the 3rd way in which fully understanding all the 7 BossProblems in this Sex and the Workplace Deck will help you, is:
3. You will know how to fix it, or at least manage it, in a way that will minimize the prices both of you will pay, (and you will pay).

But hey, why kill the mood? Let’s instead have fun understanding the intricate workplace dynamics regarding your pillow talk with Schmoopie, and also let’s see how two infamous sex scandals, can give us a glimpse into how real the danger of pillow talk is to your success. All of this, so that both of you are better prepared to protect yourselves.

So, the no. 4 of the 7 BossProblem that make you un-promotable, and un-pay-raise-able, while having an office romance, and even after it ends is:
4. The trust in your confidentiality is compromised!

This is true from both your colleagues’ and Superiors’ point of view.

The moment two individual coworkers become one clique, one unit – and not just any clique, or unit, but a romantic one, which is especially cohesive and separatist in nature, i.e. the lovers (meaning you) are distancing themselves from the rest of the team – when that happens, it is sheer common sense for people around you to suppose, any personal and professional information shared with only one of you love-bird, is going to be conveyed (not to say betrayed) to the other.

How? Through a term that is called Pillow Talk. Indeed, pillow talk is not just the silly-yet-wonderful guilty pleasure of a Rock Hudson – Doris Day movie (I’m an old Hollywood buff), but a real thing: Intelligence agencies use it, no less! Spies are sent to lure targets into it, into “pillow talk”.

And the suspicion of “pillow talk” is exactly what happened in two of the most infamous sex scandals in the modern political science! They are still well knows to this day, which is quite an achievement, considering the fact that they both happened all the way back, in the 60s! One in the UK, and one in the other is the US. 

They are very pertinent to our discussion today.

The Profumo affair, brought down the UK minister involved, the UK prime minister not involved, and their whole party, in the following elections. It really played like a James Bond movie…

In a nutshell, the then-British minister of defense, John Profumo, (hence the eponymous Profumo affair) (with the ‘affair’ aptly punned), well, he had a liaison with a stripper (and some say call-girl), who – listen to this – it is a James Bond movie: she had a concurrent liaison with a Soviet spy, in the midst of the Cold War!

You can actually imagine Sean Connery, being sent by M to extract information from her, and ending up with a liaison of his own with her, of course…

Anyway, the fear was, that highly confidential pillow talk (which is why I’m bringing this whole thing up) was going on, from said British minister of defense (no less), through his stripper/call-girl lover, to her other lover, the Soviet spy!

The important thing to note is that it’s not that any information is known for sure to have been indeed compromised, but the mere potential for information to leak through pillow talk, is in and of itself what compromised everybody involved. Because with everything that has to do with confidentiality, and your personal integrity, optics are as important as reality.

Thus, even if no confidential pillow talk is going on, you will still pay the price as if it were.