Passed Over for Promotion & Pay Raise:
What To Do (and Not Do)
Right After
to Get Another Shot

After Passing You Over, Your Boss Is Stressed Even More Than You Are: 
Dreading Having To Face You!
USE IT to Your Advantage!

Let me tell you a secret, no employee knows or understands: your boss is anxious about you not being promoted, just as you are – maybe even more! Yes, I’ve said “more”. I know it sounds odd, but it’s true! (don’t kill the messenger I’m just giving you the facts nobody else will!) How do I know? Well, 23 years of working with bosses just like yours and seeing things from their point of view, this is how! So in this 2-part video I will a. Prove it to you and b. Show you how you can use it to your advantage! So here it is: After deciding against you (with that promotion or pay raise or both) your boss dreads (dreads no less) the moment of passing you in the hall, having to look you in the eye and make small talk or worst (from his perspective): the moment you will look him in the eye and ask why ??? Why not me??? For crying out loud how could you pick that loser over me??? (of course you’d say it differently but that would be the gist of it) and when you do – he knows he will have to come up with an answer: So here are the scenarios your boss is running franticly in his head that cause his anxiety over you He could either tell you the truth – which will potentially deflate your motivation and performance, or he could brush you off with some made up, feel good, kumbaya b******* that will appease you so that you can all get back to business as usual. However, both options are dreadful to him literally dread-full. How so? Well, The first option (where he tells you the truth on why he decided to give that promotion, or pay raise, or both, to that other guy and not you) is dread-full to your boss 2 ways: A. Firstly, (on a personal level) it is very hard to look someone in the eye and tell them (meaning you) an unpleasant truth about themselves (meaning you again) especially when it is bound to make the relationship awkward at best and straight out acrimonious at worse. B. Secondly, (on a professional level) when your motivation and performance go down, this reflects negatively on your boss! Not 1 not 2 but 3 ways this happens: I. First, in his everyday managerial duties: having to deal with you! And who wants to deal with a disgruntled worker? II. Then (so this is the second way) there’s the team to deal with: we all know the dynamics within a team are always complex enough as it is, but it gets even more complex when one member (that would be you) is not pulling his weight and you are not pulling your weight because you were told the truth which you didn’t like which deflated your motivation and performance which is exactly as your boss suspected and feared Iii. And then, all of that, in turn will reflect negatively on your boss in a third way (probably the most damaging to him): the way his superiors see him So he is truly between a rock and a hard place if he tells you the truth The second option your boss is franticly considering (where he bullshits you into appeasement and a business-as-usual relationship) is also dread-full to him because: a. Firstly, it is difficult to look someone in the eye and lie to them (meaning you) just as it is telling them the truth B. Secondly, it is especially hard if the employee (meaning you) does not buy the lies and keeps probing further on the why: the more you probe the more your boss will weave an even more tangled web of lies than he already has C. And thirdly, even if he manages to somehow appease you, he knows his tangled web of b.s. will 100% come back to bite him when? When the next opportunity presents itself (for a promotion, or pay raise, or both) why? Because when that happens, you will be assuming it’s in the bag, your bag based on this cockamamie talk that he’s had with you! So either way: a dread-full catch 22, which is why your boss is totally anxious about you not getting that promotion (or pay raise, or both) just as you are – maybe. Even. More. Q.E.D. (I rest my case) Now remember! These are all scenarios your boss is franticly running in his head which is the reason for his dread. Of you: Indeed, in his mind you’re the Dread Pirate Roberts no less (and wouldn’t you have loved to be Westley and win the princess bride) Alas, my friend, I’ve prepared a very different role for you today from an entirely different movie yet as remarkable: hmm not as alluring, perhaps but much more practical for your predicament (trust me): You will be – wait for it – Dorothy all lost and confused thinking her destiny depends on the whim of the all-powerful wizard of Oz and i will be your little doggy Toto pulling back the curtain exposing all the smoke-and-mirrors behind your boss’ wizard-of-Oz appearance of confidence and being in control what you’ll find once I’ve pulled back the curtain will blow your mind because you’ll realize “you’ve always had the power to go back to Kansas” and that will make you look at your current conundrum, in a whole new way, you never thought possible Sounds interesting? Stick around! In our previous masterclass, we’ve broken down the 4 crucial don’ts right after being passed over for a promotion and / or a pay raise [I’ll link it in the description] So now it’s time for the crucial dos (what to do) so that you can have the full picture (of both the don’ts and the do’s) and… so that you can, with time, completely turn around your current disappointment into a future success And I have so many great insights and tips to share with you – things you probably don’t normally hear – so the dos will be broken into two parts: In this first part, i will drill down deep into your boss’ psychology after having passed you over: turns out it has a huge impact on him which is something I also have never heard anybody else speak of or even acknowledge let alone understand how it plays in your favor in a surprising counter-intuitive way which we’ll cover today And in the second part, I’ll show you how you can actually practically use this new-found understanding of your boss’ psychology to your advantage! (because you absolutely can!) Okay let’s get going – we have plenty to cover: the number one do (which is the focus of this part) is indeed: 1. Understand your boss’ psychology and how it can work to your advantage Now, if you’re like most employees, Dorothy, [wink wink (I can’t wink so i have to say it)] you tend to forget that your boss is not as omnipotent as he seems to be: Much like the all-powerful-wizard-of-Oz, if you pull back the curtain, as I am now doing (remember I’m your little doggy Toto) you find that it’s just some guy pulling on some levers, and often quite clueless as to what to do, in the face of direct conflict: just like when Dorothy confronts the wizard, and as you may confront your boss with the “why not me”? Question that he so dreads as we’ve seen before. This might seem confusing or oxymoronic but it’s not two things can be true at the same time: your boss did indeed have the power to decide against you (regarding that promotion and/or pay raise) so in that respect he was all-powerful but he himself is constantly subject to a complex matrix of interpersonal and political dynamics both within his department and outside of it with peers and superiors! A crucial part of this matrix is the immense psychological power that a “problematic” or a “rogue” or a “harder to control” employees have over him – as they do any boss – I’ve seen it time and time again to the point that you really come to wonder: who’s the real boss here? (and just like that 80s sitcom: tony was the one in control in more cases than one, not his boss). Simply put, the more “rogue” an employee is – the more the boss is willing to do to appease that employee just so that he himself can have some “peace and quiet”. [by the way – let me go off on a tangent here for a second: if you’re wondering why i refer to your boss (and others) as “he”: it’s just time consuming and annoying to keep saying “he or she” and I’m sick of using the pc “they” because it makes for ridiculous sentences which completely defy basic syntax and grammar – so I’m going with “he” and if i don’t forget – next time I’ll go with a “she” so we’ll alternate between the two – fair enough? You know, it’s crazy that it even needs to be addressed but these are the times we live in and i just don’t want that to distract anyone from the issue at hand! So let’s all just keep our eyes on the ball here which is your boss’ psychology whatever gender he/she/they may be] So as I’ve said: the more “rogue” an employee is – the more the boss is willing to do to appease that employee, just for his own personal “peace and quiet”. This is the paradox nobody understands or pays attention to, which is why we need this long-form drill down . You may think it is counter intuitive, but actually it makes perfect sense. The only reason why it might seem counter intuitive, is your innate (but false) assumption that your boss is both capable and willing to confront whomever is necessary, in order to assert his leadership and to make that employee compliant and easier to manage. (especially someone like you = whom is in his own department and under his direct supervision) you would think that because that is what he is paid to do, (among other things) but this is not the case most of the time: Most bosses, especially mid-management (for sure lower management, but you would be surprised how often this is true for top management as well) anyway the point is: most of them would be willing to put up with a lot (and I mean a lot) just to avoid confrontation of any sort. There is a much higher chance – for most bosses – to be either wimps or passive aggressive, rather than true leaders, with everything that that entails or should entail: [and don’t be fooled by all the “leadership programs” they attend – “leadership” is just an overused and misused term for what is otherwise mostly bureaucratic, administrative, “cog in the system” mentality that is needed to perform well in most big organizations So from here on I’ll use “management” rather than “leadership” it’s just more accurate in the context we’re talking about